Meet Violet – Your Guide to Self-Discovery and Healing
I’m a BACP-registered counsellor, psychotherapist and therapeutic life coach working onlne nationwide and in person in Upminster, Essex.
I support adults seeking emotional wellbeing, inner stability and a deeper connection with themselves – especially after periods of chronic stress, burnout, relational pain, or losing themselves to roles and expectations.
I have a particular heart for women navigating identity loss after years of caregiving, people-pleasing, or living for others – and for those whose faith is central to their healing journey.
I bring both professional expertise and lived wisdom to my practice.
My own journey through complex relationships, caregiving, cultural pressures and emotional hardship has deepened my empathy and strengthened my commitment to helping others heal – without shame, without judgement, at their own pace.
I understand what it’s like to feel lost in the weight of it all and I know what it takes to find yourself again.
How I Work
I work integratively, which means I draw from multiple evidence-based approaches to create therapy that fits you – not a one-size-fits-all formula.
My training allows me to move fluidly between different psychological modalities depending on what you need in each moment:
• Person-Centred Therapy – creating a genuinely accepting, non-judgemental space where you can explore freely
• Psychodynamic Therapy – understanding how past experiences and relationships shape present patterns
• CBT-Informed Strategies – practical tools to shift unhelpful thinking and behaviour
• Solution-Focused Therapy – goal-oriented work when you want clear direction and tangible progress
• Trauma-Informed Practice – sensitive, paced work that honours your nervous system and timing
What Guides My Practice
Safety & Compassion – you’ll be held with care, never pushed beyond your limits
Cultural Sensitivity – your background, faith and identity are welcomed and understood
Integrity & Ethics – I adhere to the BACP Ethical Framework for the Counselling Professions
Hope & Realism – honest about the work while holding steady belief in your capacity for growth, healing and self-actualisation.
My Belief About Healing
“Healing is not about ‘fixing’ yourself – it’s about meeting yourself with compassion, understanding and truth.”
You are not broken. You’ve simply been carrying more than you should have to.
Together, we’ll create the conditions for your natural capacity for healing and wholeness to emerge.
In Our Sessions, You Can Expect
• Deep, attuned listening – you have my full presence. Our time together is centred entirely on you
• Compassionate insight – gentle reflections that help you see yourself, your patterns and your strengths more clearly
• Tools for emotional regulation – practical strategies to support you between sessions when emotions feel overwhelming
• A grounded therapeutic relationship – consistent, boundaried, and genuinely warm. You can trust the space we create together
Who I Work With
My clients often include…
- Professional women – in midlife exploring identity, purpose and the question “who am I beyond my roles?”
- Adults navigating anxiety, panic attacks, low mood, stress or burnout – wanting to rebuild confidence, strengthen relilience, break stuck patterns and finally feel at peace with themselves
- Women of faith quietly carrying emotional pain – performing, keeping the peace, holding everyone together while drowning in silence and losing themselves in the process
- Adults recovering from domestic abuse, coercive control or emotionally harmful relationships – seeking to understand what happened, process the trauma and reclaim their sense of safety and self-worth
I also work with individuals processing grief, life transitions, cultural or family expectations and the search for authenticity in a world that often asks us to be smaller than we are
Ready To Begin?
You don’t need to have it all figured out. The first step is simply reaching out.
